As seen on the internet: 

If you’re promoting changes to women’s behavior to “prevent” rape, you’re really saying “make sure he rapes the other girl”.

THIS.

I have never thought about it in this context
that’s actually really, really creepy.

I… fuck.

Yeah, basically.

I once pointed this out to my mother and she just stared at me, in stunned silence for ages. 

There will always be a girl who is less sober, less secure, with less friends walking in a darker part of town. I want her safe just as much as I want me safe.
 
In discussions about rape, you hear “victim-blaming.”  Somehow, all her decisions and actions led to her being violently assaulted and violated.
 
When getting ready, she put on a revealing skirt = she knew that she was going to HAVE to have sex that night.
She talked to a man = she knew that she was going to HAVE to have sex that night.
She left her house to go to a party = she knew that she was going to HAVE to have sex that night.
 
Sounds ridiculous.  But if she had not gone to the party, she would not being in such a precarious situation.  DO NOT GO OUTSIDE.  You might lead a man on.  Valid rape-prevention advice.  From this point of view, the responsibility lies on the victim.  If he/she does not exhibit such behaviors, no negative result will occur.  If the capybara stays still enough not to be noticed by the jaguar, he/she will survive!

Author’s note:  Apologies for the wild analogy, but I happened to have watched a special about jaguars and capybaras.  If you are unsure of what a capybara is:

Victims whose actions did not cause the jaguar to eat them.  It is the jaguar’s fault that they were eaten.
The statement provided at the top is a perspective, I will admit, that I never considered.  I could be a very conscientious capybara and enhance my own longevity, but my actions will do nothing to ensure the safety of my fellow friends and peers.  The jaguar remains hungry and will feast on someone else.
What is great about this analogy is that it falls apart with my last sentence.  Men do not have an insatiable desire to violate women.  Men do have self control and bounded sexual desire.  Men do not need sex to survive.  A woman’s safety and dignity is not the survival of the fittest.  Rape prevention is not about feeding the jaguars the weakest and least secure capybaras.  The ones might have been abused, bullied, ignored, or in the wrong place at the wrong time.
 
This analogy is currently blowing my mind.  I am imagining a group of capybaras throwing one of their own to the edge… You shouldn’t have dyed your fur!  You made him hungry!
 
Clearly, the change begins by limiting the concept that rape is okay, an unfortunate event that happens to some of us. Rape should be viewed as an horrendous, disgusting, unforgivable act, terms that should also be attached to it’s perpetrators.   It is not the victim’s job to make sure they are not raped.  The ones responsible are those of us who ignore the misconduct of the attackers! (And the perpetrators that have no respect for human dignity.)
 
Last time I checked, we do not live in the South American jungle.
 
Also note:  I have used men/women in only one situation, but men/women can be raped or rape other people.  Any combination is equally horrendous.
 
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