Act 1: Anger
I’d never thought of anger as a feminist topic, but as the Guilty Feminist co-hosts and their guest discussed their experiences being angry while female (Episode 14, see my previous post), I understood. It was impossible to listen to Deborah Francis-White’s moving monologue expressing her anger following the Brexit vote without being inspired to execute my own feminist anger proclamation.
After spending weeks fuming about the misogyny erupting everywhere in response to the new Ghostbusters movie, I decided to go there and make a public statement about my anger. I almost qualified my Facebook post to say I was “sad” or “disappointed,” but no. I was angry and I said so:
Act 2: The Mansplainer
A few weeks later, the ladies over at The Guilty Feminist were discussing Speech (Episode 18). Their experiences with mansplaining and society’s complete disregard for female perspectives was damning. That episode was quickly followed by their Internet episode (Episode 19) in which Deborah Francis-White politely but firmly engaged with an online troll.
Then this little gem popped into my Facebook feed:
Witnessing this display of male privilege, motivated by my latent Ghostbusters anger, and inspired by the ladies at The Guilty Feminist, I felt compelled to challenge his statement with some speech of my own (politely of course). I went with an innocuous question expressing concern, to which he responded:
As you can see, I thought his argument was absurd and I politely made my perspective clear. While he didn’t respond, his fiancee later commented:
Female speech accomplished!
Act 3: Victory
Undeterred by my compelling feats of social media feminism, the entitled mansplainer struck again a few days later:
This made me so angry. What did she ever do to him? Act in a popular TV show that wasn’t made for him?! I had to say something but couldn’t find the right angle. Eventually I remembered a great article by the blog FiveThirtyEight demonstrating that while women don’t generally write negative reviews for media aimed at men (Sportscenter, Halo: Nightfall), many men seem compelled to write negative reviews for media aimed at women (Sex and the City, anything on the CW). The title says it all so I thought I’d share:
I was so proud of myself I was practically prancing around the house in all my feminist glory. Then he wrote back and I sorta panicked. When I finally summoned the courage to read his reply, I saw: